Are you losing your mind?
Thoughtful Thursday: Episode #11
Welcome to Thoughtful Thursday’s, a weekly series where we explore our brains, one thought at a time, and learn how our thoughts either move us forward or hold us back.
Today’s topic is: do you feel out of control?
I hope you all had a wonderful holiday and are ready to tackle the new year with zest and enthusiasm. NO? C’mon, not ready for vaccines and kids going back to school and you going back to work in an office? Not ready to leave your fluffy slippers behind for heels? Well, you are not alone.
Many people I coach are starting to have anxiety about the uncertainty of what will come next for all of us. They don’t know if or when they will have to stop being a remote employee and have to go back to the office. They wonder if the vaccine is safe. They worry about their kids getting sick from the vaccine or going back to a classroom setting. ALL OF THESE ARE JUST THOUGHTS AND THEY ARE NORMAL. NOTHING HAS GONE WRONG. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, you have a normal functioning brain that is looking to keep you safe.
So what can you do to stop your brain from making you feel like the sky is falling? You can change your thoughts. How? OK, here is an example.
The circumstance is that your work wants you to come back to the office beginning March 1.
You think “I can’t go back to work I’ll get COVID”
You feel anxious
You play it out in your head over and over, you complain to anyone that will listen, you try to drown out the thought with food or alcohol or bing watch Bridgeton, you get short with everyone around you.
The result is that you find all the evidence that you shouldn’t go back to work.
How’s that working for you? It doesn’t. Because you can’t change the fact that your work wants you to come back to the office, BUT you can change the way you think about it.
Try this on.
The circumstance is the same, your work wants you to go back to the office on March 1.
You think this will be interesting. (notice I didn’t tell you to be happy about it because you would never believe that)
You feel concerned
You get familiar with new office protocol for staying safe, you consult with your managers and express your concerns, maybe you get coached on it
The result I would offer is that while you still have concerns you are not resisting something you have absolutely no control over. (OK you do have control if you want to quit your job, which is always an option)
This feeling of being out of control comes from trying to change the things in the world that you have no control over. This will get you nowhere, BUT, you can change the way you think, feel, and act about them.
If you are struggling with something, go to my webpage kimjolicoeurcoaching.com and sign up for a free consultation. You have nothing to lose except unwanted thoughts.
Until we meet again, choose your thoughts, they are all yours.
Kim Jolicoeur is a Certified Life and Stop Overdrinking Coach helping people regain control of their lives, one thought at a time. For a free consultation go to kimjolicoeurcoaching.com.